Blog Post by: Youthly Hub.
Your parents are a gift to you.
Each parent has invested in you in many special ways that only mothers and fathers can do from their natural fitrah. From the physical, emotional, financial to the spiritual. Their rights upon you are non-negotiable.
Your duty to your mother is neither optional nor recommended. It is a great obligation that Allah (swt) has laid upon you.
Therefore, distance, marriage, success, age and other factors do not make this obligation null. To stress its importance, Allah (swt) has forbidden you from neglecting your mother and essentially your parents.
Allah (swt) has commanded us in many verses to be excellent to our parents and has pointed to the great importance of righteousness towards our parents.
Here’s a simple honour-your-parents-checklist, to help you take yourself into account regarding your MEGA duty. And so you can utilise the opportunities that come with it.
A 10-point honour your parents checklist
1. Is my mother the most deserving of my good company?
Abu Huraira reported: A man asked the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, “Who is most deserving of my good company?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked, “Then who?” The Prophet said “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your father.”(Bukhari and Muslim)
2. Am I being patient with them despite what they say or do to me?
”The one who keep good relations with his family is not the one who recompenses the good done to him. Rather, the one who keeps good relations with his family is the one who continues to be good to them despite having been cut off by them.”(Buhkari)
3. Do I ask Allah (swt) to assist me in fulfilling my duties toward them?
Abdullah ibn Amr reported: A man came to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, asking permission to strive in jihad. The Prophet said: Are your parents alive? He said yes. The Prophet said: Then strive in their service.(Bukhari)
4. Am I conscious of my parents’ good attributes and the special way they have served me?
”No child can compensate his father unless he finds him as a slave, buys him, and sets him free.” (Muslim)