Ramadan Day 11 – Don’t forget the other half of your Deen

Ramadhan is a blessed month of ‘ibadah (siyam, salat, dhikr, qiyam and sadaqah). It is a time to refocus, review and realign yourself to your life’s ultimate purpose. It is a time for self-realization, self-actualization and self-love. In it, we are determined to work on our relationship with our neighbours, our kin, our community, the poor and the needy to seek the pleasure of Allah – to gain nearness to him and be conscious of Him. We sometimes forget that it is one of the best times to work on our marriage.

The blessings of our Rabb are in manifolds in this Holy Month. It is a time to do better and fix problem areas or improve the not-so-problem areas in our lives. We set goals and have checklist of all the great things we want to do but sometimes overlook our marriage.

Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever Allah provides with a righteous wife, then Allah has assisted him in half of his religion. Let him fear Allah regarding the second half.”

We can take little steps to improve our marriage this blessed Month. Your marriage does not have to be in a bad place to need improvement. It always can do with a little improvement so long as we are willing to put in the work.

Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves. {13:11}

• Help each other

Everyone is willing to be nice and help his or her neighbor during this blessed month. We make special dishes for the community, for distant relatives and for our friends. How about we lend our significant order some help? With the dishes, setting-up iftar or sahur, work, study or even taking out the trash.

• Pray together

There are a lot of Sunnah prayers that both spouses can say together. They can can go to the masjid for taraweeh together, wake up for qiyam together. And while praying together, do not forget to pray for each other.

• Eat together

It can be as simple as giving your spouse a cup of water and some dates at the time of Iftaar. You can also spend time just sipping tea and bonding after taraweeh or wake up for sahur and share a cup of water or a meal.

• Show some love

We do have limits in Ramadhan but we can show love while acknowledging the limits. You can exchange text, emails and notes to encourage each other during the day; you can exchange hadiths and love notes too. Complements and gratitude will go a long way.

• A little healthy competition

Hold each other accountable and encourage each other to achieve goals. Cheer each other on. It is okay if your goals are different but seeing your spouse nearing their finish line might be just the push you need.

Ramadhan is a great time to connect with each other and grow closer to Allah together. Wouldn’t it be a great idea to strive towards Jannah together with your spouse in this blessed month?

Author Bio

Aisha Ahmed is a community pharmacist. She recently started running a store for Deen-inspired stuff. She is a sweet tooth who loves writing, books and popcorn. She blogs here and you can follow her on Instagram here.